He or she stops picking up the phone, stops replying SMS or BBM, basically stop communicating. I have my frustrations with this, and a friend explained it to me in ways that I can understand, and finally let it go. If you think that this doesn’t apply to you, then it’s different for every person. Let me try to sum up her explanation…..
There are a couple of things why a girl or a guy doesn’t explain. There’s a possibility that she does care for you and doesn’t want to hurt you. There is a saying “The truth shall set you free”. In some cases, the truth will only hurt you.
There are some reasons behind why a person stops communicating:
1. Another (better) person comes along
2. Family doesn't approve
3. I was just having fun with you. Now I m bored.
4. You are just my fling to make my ex jealous. Now he/she asked me to go back together
Conclusion : I don't have feeling for you anymore. So why shall I continue ?
1,3,4 – when someone told you this to your face, you definitely become infuriated…
2. – family rules over everything. Nothing you can do.
A man or a woman might say , “Who are u to ask for my explanations? We are not even dating”. This is to put it bluntly. Maybe if you are already in a relationship, the person might owe an explanation to you.
Even in the dating world, asking for an explanation can hurt you like a thousand needles…let’s say a guy is asking to break up with the girl. Then the girl is hurt because of him asking to, and insist that they stay together. Later the girl find out that there is another girl. If the girl just let him go at that point, there will be less heartache. When confronted, he says, “I already lost my feeling to you. And I asked for the breakup, but you are insisting not to. Now that you find out, what do you wanna do ? I did tell you and ask you to let me go…”
I’m not saying that this has to happen to everyone. Sometimes a relationship is worth fighting for. But on other cases, it’s better to let it go.......
Another situation, let’s say the girl like the guy since he is serious. Then she tell her parents, but they say no. She tries to explain but her parents don’t’ want to take any explanation for whatever reason. Just simple plain NO. As a good daughter she will obey her parents….
When she tell the guy, “ Sorry, my parents don’t approve of you”, what’s going to happen ? That statement doesn’t help anyone. Being the guy, it complicates things, as he doesn’t’ know what to do. Eloping doesn’t solve anything, and forcing himself to the family will make them clash with each other and eventually ruin them.
So, finally in the end, she keeps quiet and take her distance without telling him anything. This makes the guy confused. Keeps thinking about her and can’t forget her. The guy might think all the negative things about the girl, about being disrespectful, being dishonest, or whatever things come to his mind. This, in a way, makes it easier for him to move on rather than knowing the truth....Eventually, not letting everything out in the open does him more good than bad.
What I'm trying to say is this....whatever happened in the past, the future hasn't happen yet. What you have if is the present, and that is the time to believe in GOD.....believe that He has a better plan….
believe that when one door closes, another one will open….God will open it up for you when it's the right time, and it’s up to you whether you want to cry over the closed door, or accept it and let it go….let Him lead you to the best pathway of your life (Psalm 32:8)
And this is her final quote.
“Relationship at the end is very hard. (I used to say full stop here) - but that's the beauty that God created. We are all different. We aren't perfect. It’s how you compromise. Sacrifices.”
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