Handling Love

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you,
be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him,
feel honored that love came and called at your door.
But gently refuse the gift you cannot return.

Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another,
and she/he falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go.

There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you.
All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.

Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love,
they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places
that will be filled by love.
And they begin to look at love
as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.
They cease to be someone who generates love,
and instead become someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift,
and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart.
Love has its own time, its own seasons,
and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives
and give it away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover,
There is nothing you can do, and there is nothing you should do.
Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just because you don't want to be hurt...

Positive Attitude in Adversity

Life's just funny sometimes.....that's what someone told me :) and that's what I experience....I'm in a new work environment...everything is hunky dory at first...then for no reason at all...at the 2nd month...one by one they begin to shun me....it's weird....I'm always being excluded out of conversations......no lunch invites.......nothing....T

hey just talk to me when necessary...and the conversation ends there....being shunned if you have done them wrong is understandable....but being shunned for no reason at all is just, shall I quote from Shrek, "SUCKETH" This is hard for me..especially if you're so used of being liked by a lot of people...(not that I brag about this...but I usually get along well with most people regardless of their age)

Until this second, the situation is about the same.....and I don't understand why....I talk to someone about this....and he had the same experience....he was shunned for 2 years by his friends....for no reason at all.....So I ask my friend, what does God wants us to learn from this experience...this is his insight...

"God's teaching us how to deal with people... we must choose a positive attitude in spite of their C$%#. Paul chose to be positive even when he was in prison. We must choose to be positive when we are in "prisons" of our own....you are in a bit of a "prison" if you will...a tough spot. Each day you must choose a good attitude and keep looking for the good"

And there's another reading in RBC Website called "What does it take to be wise?". Click HERE to go to the website. In this reading, the author teach us to live by Jesus' example. And this is part of the reading that speaks to me.

Willing to yield—Because it takes two to tangle, one person who is willing to give up the urge to get even can make a difference.

Instead of repaying wrong for wrong, a willingness to return good for evil is an expression of strength rather than weakness. Surrendering to God, instead of merely focusing on the one who has hurt us, enables us to work patiently for an outcome that is:

Full of mercy and good fruit—When our heart is yielded to the wisdom of Christ, we see the value of planting seeds of undeserved kindness while waiting for the fruit of peace.

With the insight that comes from above (3:15-17), we are willing to give others the space they need to think for themselves. In the grace of patience, we give them time to experience the growing influence of Christ in their own lives. Rather than responding to others in a near-sighted and superficial way, we show a wisdom that is:

Without partiality—Earlier in his letter, James wrote about followers of Christ who were inclined to treat people of wealth and influence better than the poor and needy (2:1-10). Now he shows that responding to others without partiality is a way of showing the wisdom and heart of God. Rising above the influence of wealth, social standing, or appearance enables us to live with a wisdom that is:

Without hypocrisy—This seventh identifying mark of wisdom caps the rest. James uses it to celebrate the integrity of the enlightenment God wants to give us. He knows that in our better moments none of us wants to talk the language of faith while practicing the goals and politics of envy and ambition.

From author Mart De Haan.

So, in our adversity, we must try harder to be like Jesus....this is the true meaning of Christianity....don't repay wrong doing with the same thing...instead, choose to do the right thing and return good.......as we see him being crucified without any fight..... it's hard yo !!!! :) but I guess that's a process of cleaning up our inner human.....and becoming a better Christian day by day..... I believe that God will make a way...and I believe that He will not let me in the same situation for more than I can bear.....Pray for me my friends....Thank you.